An example of a better husband. Prophet Muhammad and Khadija

The best example of relationships in a Muslim family is the pious family of the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him. He made us know how men should behave towards their wives, and by his own example he showed what it means to be a good husband. And his wives strove in everything to correspond to the high status of the Prophet's wife, helped and supported the Messenger of Allah in His mission, for which they were called “mothers of believers.”

It is important to note that although the Prophet Muhammad, Peace be upon him, there were several wives, He was never fond of women. For the first time the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, got married when He was 25 years old, and the second time - only after the death of his first wife, when He was already over 50 years old. Subsequently, He married women from different tribes, but not for the sake of carnal pleasures, but in order to strengthen the Muslim society, overcome the stereotypes regarding marriage that existed then in society, and to spread Islam. And also the benefit of these marriage unions was that His wives spread Islam among women.

A lot of facts prove that the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, did not strive for the pleasures of this life. For example, when it was the turn of his youngest and most beautiful wife, 'Aisha, he did not spend all the time with her, but went off to pray at the cemetery at night. And there is also a story that once a woman came to the Messenger of Allah to woo her daughter. She said that her daughter is so beautiful and healthy that she never even had a headache. To this the Prophet Muhammad replied that He does not need to marry her.That is, the Prophet made it clear to this woman that he is not going to marry her daughter just because she is beautiful and healthy.

The desire for the pleasures of this life is not inherent in any of the Prophets, and none of Them had a weakness for the opposite sex. And the fact that the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, had many wives is a privilege given to him by the Creator.

According to the Shari'at of the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, a man can have no more than four wives at a time but the Messenger of Allah was allowed to conclude nikah with a large number of women.

Scholars have conveyed several opinions about the number of the Prophet's wives. According to one of these opinions, there were 11 of them: Khadija bint Huaylid, Saud bint Zam'a, 'Aisha bint Abu Bakr, Hafsa bint' Umar ibn Al-Khattab, Umm Salama bint Abu Umayya, Juuayriya bint Al-Haris, Zainab bint Jhtab Zainab bint Huzaimah, Umm Habiba bint Abu Sufyan, Safiyya bint Huay, Maimuna bint Al-Haris.


                                                                                                                 Khadija is the first wife of the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him

The full name of the first wife of the Messenger of Allah is Khadija bint Huaylid ibn Asad ibn ‘Abdul-’Uzza. Her mother's name was Fatyma bint Zayed ibn Jundub.

Khadija was a noble woman from the Quraish clan. She was wealthy, successfully ran her own trade and sent caravans for trade to other countries. Once she offered a job to a young man named Muhammad, as He was known among people for his honesty, decency and good manners. Doing business with Him and being convinced of His high morality, Khadija, through intermediaries, offered Him to marry her, and He agreed. He was then 25 years old, and she was 40. This is another proof that the heart of the Messenger of Allah was not attached to women. After all, He could marry a young girl, because He was young, very handsome, had an excellent reputation, belonged to an honorable family and had never been married before. And Khadija, before marriage with the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, was married twice. Her first husband was called 'Atik ibn' Abid, and the second - Abu halya hind ibn Zarara ibn An-Nabbash from the clan of Banu Usayyid ibn 'Amr ibn Tamim.

Khadija became the wife of the Messenger of Allah in 15 years before the Prophet received Revelation. Some scholars said that her father gave her in marriage to the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, while others said that her uncle, ‘Amr.

Khadija was a devoted and well-behaved wife of the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him. Their marriage lasted 25 years. The Prophet treated her with warmth both during her lifetime and after her death. While Khadija was alive, the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, had no other wives besides her.


Khadija was the first in the Prophet's community to accept Islam and supported His call. Isma'il ibn Iyas ibn ‘Afif transmitted the following story from his father‘ Afif al-Kindiy ’from his father:“ I was engaged in trade and during the pilgrimage I went to the area of ​​Mina. There I met with Al-Abbas ibn Abdul-Muttalib and made a deal with him. When I was talking to him, a man came and began to pray before Ka'ba, a woman and a young man were with Him. I asked Al-Abbas: "What kind of religion do they have?" He replied: “This is Muhammad ibn‘ Abdullah, who says that Allah sent Him as a Prophet, and His religion will be spread throughout Persia and Byzantium. This woman is His wife Khadija bint Huaylid, who followed Him. And this young man is the son of His uncle 'Ali ibn Abu Talib, who also followed Him.' ‘Afif said,“ If I had converted to Islam when I saw them, I would have been the second man to convert to Islam [in the community of the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him]. ” Later ‘Afif became a Muslim. This hadith has the degree of saheeh.


Hafiz scholars [1] have confirmed that in the community of the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, Khadija was the first woman to convert to Islam.


In particular, Muhammad ibn Ishaq narrated that Khadija was the first to accept Islam and believed the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him: “Indeed, the Angel Jibril appeared to the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, when He was on the outskirts of the valley, he hit the ground with his heel, and from there he hammered a source ... Then he made ablution, and the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, repeated after him. After that, Jibril performed Namaz of two rak'ats, while doing four sajdah. After the Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, returned home, His eyes were full of joy, His soul rejoiced because He received from Allah what made Him happy. He took Khadija's hand and led her to the source. The Prophet bathed there, just as Jibril did, and then performed two rak'at Namaz, making four sajdah. After that, Khadija also performed ablution and, together with the Prophet, peace be upon him, performed Namaz. From that time on, the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, and His wife Khadija began to constantly perform Namaz. "


This happened even before the five daily Namaz became obligatory. Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, received the command to perform five Namaz a day on the night of Isra wal-Mi'raj. Khadija did not live up to that time - she died five years before this great event.

Khadija was a wise and patient woman. She donated her wealth for the spread of Islam, helping the Messenger of Allah. At a time when other people called the Prophet Muhammad a liar and laughed at Him, she supported Him and stood up for His protection. She endured all the difficulties, ridicule and hostility of society and steadfastly preserved her dignity and honor of her husband.

Khadija is the mother of all the children of the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, except for one son - Ibrahim, whom Mary gave birth to. The firstborn of Khadija and the Messenger of Allah was Al-Qasim, therefore the Prophet was named after the eldest son Abul-Qasim, that is, "the father of Al-Qasim." Their other son is ‘Abdullah, who was also called At-Tabir and At-Tayyib [2]. They also had four daughters: Zainab, Rukaya, Umm Kulthum and Fatyma, may Allah have mercy on them. All the children of the Messenger of Allah, except Fatima, died during the life of the Prophet Muhammad, may peace be upon him.

Khadija had many trials. Before the arrival of the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, paganism was spread among the Arabs. It was a time of terrible disbelief, ignorance and cruelty. For example, the Arabs buried newborn girls alive, since they considered the birth of a daughter a shame. And at this time, in such a society, the Prophet Muhammad and His wife Khadija raised their daughters.

Khadija withstood one of the most powerful trials for a woman and a mother - the death of children.For her patience, love for the Prophet and piety, she received a high degree of piety.

'Abdullah ibn Ja'far narrated the words of Imam' Ali ibn Abu Talib: “I heard from the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, these words: "The best of all women is Maryam bint 'Imran, and the best woman in my community is Khadija bint Huaylid." This Hadith has the degree of Sahih.

Ruzain in the book "Majmu'as-sihah" conveyed the words of the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him: “Of the men, many have attained perfection in the Faith, and of the women, only four: Maryam daughter of 'Imran, Assiya wife of Pharaoh, Khadija daughter of Huaylid, Fatim daughter of Muhammad. ”

Imam Al-Bayhakyy passed along a chain from Imam Abu Hureyra, who said:“ Once the Angel Jibril appeared to the Prophet Muhammad , peace be upon him, and said: “O Messenger of Allah! Khadija came to you and brought food. When she comes in, give her salam and please her with the fact that Allah has given her a home in Paradise. " This hadith also has the degree of saheeh. Thus, for her excellent qualities, Khadija received the news during her lifetime that she would be in Paradise.

Khadija died in Mecca. This happened even before the great migration to Medina. She passed away at the age of 65 [3] - 10 years after receiving the Revelation by the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him. In the same year, the Prophet's uncle Abu Talib ibn ‘Abdul-Muttalib died. This year was called “the year of sorrow.”

The Prophet was deeply saddened by the death of Khadija and kept a good memory of her until the end of his days.After all, Khadija, who tenderly and devotedly loved the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, managed not only to surround Him with attention and care, but also to become His faithful friend, who can always understand, share His joys and worries, support and encourage in difficult times. The Prophet did not forget about her when he married other women.

Al-Bayhakyy narrated the Hadith that 'Aisha said: “I was not so jealous of any of the Prophet's wives, peace be upon him. as to Khadija, since He often remembered her. He married me three years after her death. Allah commanded Him to please Khadija by giving her a house in Paradise. " This hadith has the degree of saheeh. It follows from this Hadith that Allah granted Khadija forgiveness.

There is another Hadith about how the Prophet treated Khadija. Al-Bayhakyy narrated the Hadith from ‘Aisha, who said:“ I was not jealous of the Prophet, peace be upon him, for his other wives as I did for Khadija, although I did not find her alive. When the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, was slaughtering a sheep, He asked to give the meat to Khadija's friends. Once I was indignant: "Khadiji ?!" He said: “Yes! Allah granted me to love her. " This Hadis was given by Imams Muslim and Al-Bukhariy in their collections.

In another hadith, which was transmitted by chain from Al-Hafiz Abul-Qasim from the Prophet's wife ‘Aisha, who said:“ Every time the Prophet Muhammad spoke about Khadija, He praised her and asked her forgiveness. Once, when He remembered her, jealousy seized me, and I said: "Allah has given you a young woman." The Prophet was very angry at my words, and everything inside me fell. Then I said to myself: "Oh, Allah, if You free me from the wrath of the Prophet, I will never say bad things about Khadija again." Prophet Muhammad understood my repentance and asked: “Yes, that's right! By Allah, she believed in me when other people rejected me, and supported me, while others turned away, she believed me when others refused, and Allah gave her to have children from me, while you [you and the rest of the wives] did not have given to this. " ‘Aisha said,“ After that, He didn’t come to me for a month. ”

The relationship between the Messenger of Allah and His wife Khadija shows us an example of a worthy marriage. How many women in our time are able to love so much, so selflessly help their husbands, fully support them and take care of them ?! How often wives begin to reproach their husbands even at the slightest difficulty!

And the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, showed men an example of an exemplary husband who did not humiliate his wife because she was not young, and before he already had other husbands. In spite of everything, he loved her, protected her, set her as an example to other women and was gentle and kind with her. We need to remember this wonderful example of family relations in order not to make mistakes and be kinder and better.

[1] Experts in Hadith who know the Hadiths of the Prophet Muhammad by heart, peace be upon him, and their chain transmissions and their reliability
[2] There is also a version of scientists that At-Tabir and At-Tayyib are two different sons.
[3] Some scientists said that she died in the month of Ramadan in age 55.

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